Two weeks ago, I added this girl F24 on Instagram who I knew from school years ago. I wanted to connect with her and possibly explore a friends-with-benefits (fwb) situation, as I'm moving back to my hometown soon, where she also lives.

Right from the start, we hit it off. We texted each other regularly, and I was honest with her about wanting a friendship with a potential fwb. She agreed but said she wanted to get to know me better first, so we planned a meetup for coffee, followed by a visit to an arcade.

We kept texting and sending pictures to each other. On the day of our date, however, she had to cancel due to a family emergency (which is fair enough, things happen). I didn’t make a big deal out of it, and she even suggested a new date. In the days that followed, we kept texting even more, including some NSFW stuff and pictures. She was kinky like me and matched on this.

Unfortunately, she had to cancel the rescheduled date too, as she was feeling sick. I suggested we meet up over the weekend for some drinks and food, and she agreed, saying it sounded good.

I was a bit bummed out about the situation, and I think she could sense that through the messages I sent. Things felt a little different between us, in a slightly negative way, and I started slightly doubting the whole situation.

Then, two day ago, she sent me this message: "Sorry to say this so randomly, but when I talk to you, I feel like I 'freeze up.' I think you're very interesting and sweet, but at the moment, I don't want a fwb or friendship at all. When I feel better and have the courage, I'll send you a dm."

She also said I could message her if I wanted to.

So now, I’m not sure what she really means by this. I replied with: "Okay, I’m not angry with you, I'll give you the space you need. Have a nice evening."

I got a feeling this felt rushed for her and maybe she was doubting about the whole fwb thing.

And what does she mean with I can also send her a dm? Like I was already ready for this and was exited to meet her.