Me and my bf have been dating for 4 years.

I won’t lie recently it has been pretty awful.

About 9 months ago he got a new job and gained a bunch of new friends. These friends are awful influences. One of them actively was trying to get my boyfriend to cheat on me. Another would try to show him TikTok’s (my bf doesn’t have TikTok) of half naked women.

I asked him to cut these friends off because they were disrespectful towards me. He told me no. That was the first of the actual resentment I think.

one of his friends has a girlfriend that works at a place where my boyfriend was interested in working. so my boyfriends friend got him the job. his friends gf (lets call her Anna) , was his boss. I immediately knew this would be a problem. Anna started to flirt with my boyfriend on a daily basis. Talking about cars (she loves cars just like my bf does), making sexual jokes, constantly trying to start conversation. I would cry and tell him how uncomfortable I was with this. This was the second thing im resentful of… this one is worse. Like it genuinely made me hate myself.

I know most of you probably think things like “work wife’s” are okay but im not okay with anything of the sort.

My boyfriend didn’t care. He started to get annoyed with my anger. He became cruel. Told me to “shut the fuck up” just abt everyday for the past 6 months. he would call me annoying. We would be otp and if I started to cry over the situation he would hangup then ignore all of my texts/ calls.

I never understood why I have to shutup, but Anna gets to talk to him all day. He mentioned once that he can’t be mean to the women he works with. It confused me because he is god awful to me. How can you say you love a woman but treat every other girl better?

He tells me at least 5 times a week that im too much to deal with. I would just like to say yall might think im insane for my boundaries but his are worse. I don’t mind following his boundaries because honestly i have no interest in having male friends. Men disgust me and i want them all far away from me. But also I want to make my boyfriend comfortable. Would never want him to feel the way he makes me feel.

I just don’t know if this relationship is salvageable.

Please give me advice. I am lost and alone right now.