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I get the fuck out of the military in just a few short months(aiming for NO LATER than May 2024). However I am concerned these clowns in admin may be slacking on my separation processing(already done TAPS and my separation physical).
I know one man who was in a similar boat a couple of months ago who was getting kicked out with an admin sep and he had to intimidate and act like an asylum patient in order for the fuckers in admin to expedite his processing(I am not trying to go down that route). For clarification I am getting a honorable discharge with full benefits and already got my VA claims done via BDD.
I feel it is rather annoying that I am damn near close to getting my DD-214 but it feels like an eternity waiting for my date. I don't like the fact that I am basically spending the rest of my days at this shitty base staring at a wall for 16 hours a day making the same $1000 paycheck every two weeks for the last couple of years. I have been separated from my hometown for what it feels like a century and I'm worried when I go back it will be unrecognizable to me(they could've stationed me back there since we have a LOT of bases but okay). I could potentially be making 5 to 6 times what I'm making now working the same hours and being a lot happier.
Why does it seem like the majority of military jobs are just hurry up and wait bullshit? I want to do real work and make real money. I am just sick and tired of waiting and its causing my mental health to deteriorate even further. I don't know what to do.
Thanks all for reading.
I know this won't help the feeling of unknowing but please make copies of your records upon exiting. When I got med sep'd over the two years they lost my records twice and "threatened legal action" against me for not "being compliant" since I told them that the VA couldn't get another copy of my records in 2 weeks that they already lost twice. The VA told me the soonest it could go to them, for the 3rd time, was 4 to 6 weeks.
All that hard work and effort for so many years didn't matter when I needed help.
Please continue to take care of yourself and allow yourself to do hobbies you like while dealing with the stress. I know it sucks but I'm proud of you and am happy for your upcoming future endeavors.
This was in 2011. I was in 2003-2014. My life was a mess in the sense that I did not come to terms with being raped in 2003 and Iraq 2006/2007. It took me 11 years to talk about my MST. 2012-2014 was some of the worst years of my life. Between 2012 and 2016, I got divorced, ended up homeless, did 2 substance programs, 7 suicide attempts, and spent 6 months inpatient at the VA from doing 2 PTSD unit stays.
I've had multiple open surgeries and am up to about 50 surgical procedures on my feet, knees, elbow, hand/wrist, shoulders, and back. I had my tonsils removed and have stomach problems from the burn pits. I also had a head injury and my left eardrum is blown out.
I started at 40% with the va in 2012, 70% in 2014, and have been 100% since 2016. I am 100% P&T now. Gained the trust of my pain doctor by doing my best to utilize my safety plan, continue to follow-up with my mental health team, and haven't drank in years. I'm on fentanyl, muscle relaxers, and dilaudid to get thru with pain to be as functional as I can. Some days are better than others but l am really trying.
I'm lucky to have found real love and also was able to get a Master's degree despite everything. We now have a nice house and within reason have anything we want. It feels good.
It's still difficult because I still have problems keeping friends, especially males from what happens to me, and don't have much family support besides my wife. I'm still lucky and thankful that it's starting to work out all these years later.
Don't let anyone tell you that you cannot do something and remember that forgiveness is for you. I'm glad you already have your ducks in a row and the fire in your soul to move forward!
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A vase that breaks will never be perfect but put together it tells a story. In my case... more like a box of dropped crayons but hey. Best of luck with the upcoming challenges. I know it's gonna be uncomfortable with the adjustments coming up but you are worth it and will handle things. You already know you are not alone and have support which is fantastic. Thank you again for the kind words as well.