Hi Reddit!

I recently relocated to Seoul from the US and I'm facing my new and sparkly life head-on with much vigor and anticipation! However, one aspect of it that was unfulfilled before remains the same... I'm hoping to meet someone who can help me change that.

I spent most of my 30's focusing on my career, and while I don't regret my choices, every now and then I think about the dating/cuddling/sex and all the other fun things I missed out on and I feel like I'm wasting my youth a little.

I seek sweetness during the day: fun and low-key dates exploring all the little nooks and crannies of the beautiful city of Seoul? Sunday brunch followed by a movie? Yes to all. I very rarely say no to any kind of outing, so if you've always had something you wanted to try or somewhere to go but didn't want to go by yourself, I'm your gal.

At night, I'm looking for spiciness. I am very physically affectionate and would like to find a lover who is equally attentive, respectful, and passionate. I've been single for quite some time and there is much catching up to do... Haha.

I'd like to start with something simple and fun. Don't want to meet any parents or pick out wedding dresses, but you might be able to inspire me to do both eventually. While I don't want to label anything right now, I guess for the sake of clarity, I am looking to date casually, and am open to the possibility of things become more serious down the line.

I'm ambitious and work-oriented, and both my work and current social obligations keep me pretty busy. Because of this, I think someone with his own stuff going on and has a similar lifestyle would be a good fit. Obviously, we would both need to make time for each other, but I think this will happen naturally so I'm not too worried. Point is that you should also be ready to make the time and be both physically and emotionally available to start something with me, and we can figure out the pace together.

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A little more about me:

- I'm an art director and work in several creative fields. I love my work and take it very seriously.

- Huge geek! Videogames (RPG's mostly, Zelda, etc.), anime/manga, sci-fi/fantasy TV and movies

- Love to cook/bake, explore new places/travel, work out (weights, swimming), gardening, movies/TV.... the list of things I don't like/don't do is probably shorter.

- Looooooove all animals, will compulsively pet anything with fur. Currently raising 2 cats.

- Assertive, organized, and ambitious in work mode.

- Extroverted, cheerful, and easy-going in play mode.

- I enjoy deep, intellectual, and genuine conversations. Am also very talkative, as you may have gathered from my long post.

- I'm both physically and emotionally healthy. I value my health and live a healthy lifestyle.

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I would love to hear from you if the following apply:

- you currently are living in, or will be relocating to Seoul permanently. This is a deal-breaker and I'm not making any exceptions, no matter how awesome you think you are. Contacting me anyway will send you directly to my block list.

- you're single and unattached (including poly/ethical non-monogamy.) I'd like to meet one person exclusively with the potential for us to get closer over time.

- you're looking for the same/similar things. If you're looking for a FWB, a rebound, a hook-up/ONS, please pass me - let's not waste each other's time.

- If you actually intend to meet in person. Not looking for online friends, PLENTY of those here on Reddit you can talk to.

- you're emotionally available. You can be guarded and have some things to work out, but you should be ready to open up to me and be ready for me to get to know you.

- I try not to consider age, but if I'm honest, I'm not attracted to guys who are much older or younger than I am. For funsies, my ideal age range is around 35-42.

- You speak either English or Korean relatively fluently (we need to have at least one common language between us!)

- you are at least neutral (but preferably like/love) cats. I will never choose a man over my babies, sorry.

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Bonus points if you:

- I am particularly weak against pierced ears and tattoos.

- you'll watch anime with me (and actually enjoys it.) One of my childhood fantasies was to have a boyfriend who also likes anime, this yet remains unfulfilled. T_T

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And a few NSFW requirements and I know I'll get some solicitations anyway despite this:

- I expect both of us to get tested before becoming physically intimate. Stating this here very clearly because I've run into some resistance when it comes to STD testing in Korea. Safety first!

- I'm not into BDSM, degradation, etc. I'm also not interested in instructing you to do certain things while watching, nor do I want to be spanked, become your sex slave or your master.... etc. etc. etc.

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I don't like playing games unless they involve a controller. If you're the kind of guy who likes 밀당, or want to be smothered by 애교, I'm not the one for you. I'd like to meet an adult who has grown out of playing these silly games.

I look forward to your politely written DM, in which I'd like to request that you include:

- your name/whatever you want me to call you, your age, and whereabouts in Seoul you're located.

- some things about yourself, so I can decide whether or not I want to respond.

- a photo would also be appreciated, since I've included my own.

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Chances of me responding are much higher if you show me that you have properly comprehended my post and respected my requests. If you message me with just "hey how are u" I'm probably not going to respond at all. Please also don't ask me to chat on another app. We obviously both have Reddit, so let's keep it simple and start here, yeah?

Finally, I hope everyone here finds what they're looking for. The world's been so crazy lately, and I think most of us are just looking for a little bit of love and goodness. Take care, everyone.