Hi Reddit!

I recently relocated to Seoul from the US and have a new job, a new home in a new city, and a new(ish) social circle... I'm facing my new and sparkly life head-on with much vigor and anticipation! However, one aspect of it that was unfulfilled before remains the same, and I'm hoping to meet someone who can change that with me.

I spent most of my 30's establishing my career, and while I don't regret my choices, every now and then I think about all of the dating/cuddling/sex and all the other fun lovey things I missed out on and I feel like I'm wasting my youth a little bit.

I seek sweetness during the day: fun and low-key dates exploring restaurants and the beautiful city of Seoul. Taking leisurely walks amongst autumn leaves while holding hands. Sharing delectable desserts at cute cafes, perhaps.

At night, I'm looking for spiciness. I am very physically affectionate and am looking for a partner in the bedroom who is equally attentive, respectful, and sensual.

... and I will want these things pretty frequently. ;)

I'd like to start with something simple and fun, and am open to how things develop from there. Don't want to meet any parents or date with marriage in mind, but you might be able to inspire me to do both eventually. While there is no need to define what we are right off the bat, I seek both an emotional as well as physical connection, so I think a FWB relationship is too casual/shallow for me.

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A little about me:

- I'm an art director and work in several creative fields. I love my work and take it very seriously.

- Huge geek! Videogames (RPG's mostly, Zelda, etc.), anime/manga, sci-fi/fantasy TV and movies

- Love to cook/bake, explore new places/travel, work out (weights, swimming)

- Looooooove all animals. Currently living with 2 cats.

- Assertive, organized, and ambitious in work mode.

- Extroverted, cheerful, and easy-going in play mode.

- I enjoy deep, intellectual, and genuine conversations.

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My work and other social obligations take up the majority of my time, so I think someone with his own stuff going on and a similar lifestyle would be a good fit. Obviously, we would both need to make some time for eachother, but I think this will happen naturally so I'm not too worried.

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I would love to hear from you if the following apply:

- you currently are living in, or will be relocating to Seoul permanently. This is a deal-breaker and I'm not making any exceptions, no matter how awesome you might be.

- you're single and unattached (including poly/ethical non-monogamy.) I'd like to meet one person exclusively with the potential for us to get closer over time.

- you're NOT just looking for a hook-up/ONS/casual FWB situation.

- I generally don't care about age, but I'm usually not attracted to guys who are much older or younger. For funsies, my ideal age range is around 35-42.

- You speak either English or Korean relatively fluently (we need to have at least one common language between us!)

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I don't like playing games unless they involve a controller. If you're the kind of guy who likes 밀당, or want someone who is going to smother you with 애교, I'm not the one for you.

I'm also not looking for online friends or chat buddies. Please pass me if you don't intend to and/or can't meet in person at all.

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And a few NSFW requirements and I know I'll get some solicitations anyway despite this:

- I'm not into BDSM, degradation, etc. I'm also not interested in instructing you to do certain things while watching, nor do I want to be spanked, become your sex slave or your master.... etc. etc. etc.

- I expect both of us to get tested before becoming physically intimate. Stating this here very clearly because I've run into some resistance when it comes to STD testing in Korea.

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Thanks for reading! I look forward to your politely written DM, in which I'm hoping you'll include some things about yourself, what you're looking for, and maybe also what made you reach out to me. I would prefer DMs over chat messages. A photo would also be appreciated, since I've included my own. Chances of me responding are much higher if you show me that you have properly comprehended my post and can follow instructions :)

Finally, I hope everyone here finds what they're looking for. The world's been so crazy lately, and I think most of us are just looking for a little bit of love and goodness.