Q: Tell me a little about yourself?

A: I’m 45 years old, 5'10", and 170 lbs. I’ve got black, well-groomed salt-and-pepper full head of hair. I’m well-read, carry myself well, well-traveled, thriving in my career on Seattle’s Eastside, and confident in who I am. Sports, biking and strength training is my thing. I just finished reading the Hail Mary book. I highly recommend it. Potential APs describe me as handsome, easy to talk to, and nice.

Q: What’s your situation?

A: I’m married, but in a dead-bedroom situation due to mismatched libido. I have gone through 5 stages of grief and I have made peace. I am not going to leave my marriage. I am aware I am cheating here and I am ok with it.

Q: Tried therapy?

Yes, My SO didnt want to continue. Can share more details in chat.

Q: Why dont you quit?

I am a provider, in every sense you can imaging. Without me they would fall apart. My family needs me.

Q: Have you cheated before?

Yes, I’ve had an AP before, and it was an incredible connection—emotionally, intellectually, and physically. Our favorite time was discussing books and how we see and interpret world. She had to move away for family. We said our goodbyes with a content heart and tears in our eyes.

Q: Do you feel guilty?

I know exactly why I’m here. I’ve made peace with my choices, and I’ve learned how to balance the different aspects of my life. There’s space for everything—my family, my work, and a connection that’s just for me and you.

Q: Who are you looking for?

A: I’d love to meet a married woman who is in a similar situation as I am. She is looking for a “secret boyfriend” to bring fun, healthy emotions and spice back into life. No drama, no financial exchanges, and ideally, someone closer to my age. I’m not here to disrupt your life or mine—just to add something meaningful on the side.

Q: What matters most to you in an affair partner?

• Mutual Attraction – Chemistry is key. I stay in shape, carry myself well, and I’m drawn to someone who takes care of themselves too. Confidence? That’s foreplay for the mind.
• Emotional Availability – I’m looking for daily check-ins, flirty banter, and those “I can’t wait to tell him” moments. I’ll be your emotional cheerleader
• Respect for Boundaries – I respect your time, privacy, and situation. I’ll check in when you want me to but won’t overstep.
• Shared Desires – Got a naughty side? Let’s explore it—no judgment, just enthusiasm. Variety is the spice of life.
• Discreet & Realistic – I live a full life with work, parenting, and the occasional pickleball game. I know how to keep things discreet, fun, and drama-free.

Q: Are you like most other men who sends me unsolicited pics?

A: I’m self-aware, emotionally present, and not just looking for a quick fling. I’ve felt deep connections before, and while falling for someone is always a risk, I’d take that leap again for the right person. I know how to keep things exciting, respectful, and realistic. Plus, I come with a sense of humor.

Q: How do I know you are real, not fake, flake or ghost?

A: We can have a quick chat. It’ll take less than 5 minutes to see if we’re each other’s type. I prefer exchanging pics early on since mutual attraction is important. No hard feelings if we’re not a match—I’ll respect your time and wish you well.

Q: ok, life is more than sex and cheating is a big step. How do you reason with it?

A: Life’s too short not to have excitement and joy. I crave a meaningful, fun, and discreet connection. Do you?