Hello and thanks for looking at my post.

My hope here is to find a open minded, educated, local woman, with earnest intentions and a heart of gold. Someone left-leaning, nerdy or bookish, realistic and modest. A fun, consistent misfit with an easy smile who’s interested in alleviating a persistent sense of loneliness with an engaging respectable man.

Preferably you’re a non-smoker, pet friendly, gluten-free, light or non-drinker, and drug free but I don’t care about a little cannabis on occasion. I’ve no preference in your age, height or any specific size. All are beautiful in their own way. While I consider myself slightly more upscale, I’ve always been more drawn to the humble girl Nextdoor type instead of the overly put together influencer type. I just feel a more basic style is more sustainable and more reliable. And I’ve no expectations other than meeting a nice, respectable female who keeps it positive and down-to-Earth in hopes of finding promising chemistry for friendship and enduring companionship.

I’m 5’10”, slender, brown eyes, masculine face, big smile, hygienic, warm and friendly, lighthearted and humorous, musical and tech savvy, pet friendly, and a supportive dad to one child. Please note that I’m not interested in having more.

Also, I will share that I’m a bit of a misfit myself as well being a latchkey kid coming from a broken home and having my own baggage like everyone else. I am not perfect. Given this I have still managed to start a family with a respectable and reliable partner to raise a child. Our child is bright and awesome. I have also managed to find a good career home for many years in our city’s mainstream industry and consider myself part of the local establishment. So I’m gainfully employed and aptly insured.

In truth, I was given nothing from my absentee parents and did it all on my own. How did I do it? A lot of clawing and fighting and struggling in life and working on myself to get here and yet I still have plenty to work on. But while I am a work in progress, life is good. I am grateful to have come this far.

Again, I’m looking to meet new people and make genuine social connections and share emotional vulnerability with those on a similar vibe. And I need to be completely open and honest with myself and those around me to sustain my inner peace and happiness.

To reiterate, I have been a doting husband and father who takes care of his responsibilities and have been for over 13 years. As I’ve said, I’ve had a stable, consistent career for years and am appreciated and respected by my colleagues and peers.

So my home and professional lives are stable - Now I need to work on the personal and social areas of my life because they are a wreck after years of pandemic isolation and the subsequent scattering of my previously local social network. I have been working on it this year and have been getting out a bit more lately but let’s see what Reddit can produce.

Growing up here I enjoy getting out and going on adventures in and around LA and also abroad, just as much as I enjoy staying in and being a homebody, foodie, DIY renovating, or bingeing a TV show.

Regarding ENM: After 16 years together we have grown apart and are now aromantic nesting partners. There is no drama here and we have a productive, supportive and functional home life, and are both deeply committed to raising our only child. It’s not perfect but it works quite well.

I don’t wish to upend my family and prefer to keep our stable and amicable home life status quo. My partner feels the same way and we’ve decided to date separately after already being platonic for some time. We are basically supportive roommates and responsible parents. Finding someone in a similar situation would be cool or someone totally okay with my situation.

Simply put, I am hoping for more social enrichment in my life beyond the typical stuff going on now with friends or coworkers. And they don’t need to know my wife and I have evolved our marriage. This is why I am here on Reddit.

And since Reddit seems so preoccupied with lascivious behavior, I must say: I do not feel the need to jump into anything physical nor do I wish to build a relationship solely based on kinks or getting naked. I’m not avoiding these things but genuinely want to find a chill, reliable woman to start building a friendship and social relationship based on fun activities, trust and sharing, without ego or judgement.

I’d like to find someone who is well beyond the typically shallow subreddit search for quick casual encounters or superficial needs and desires.

My want is to find nice chemistry with someone I can easily communicate with daily and meet up with weekly. Once we are comfortably established I might be able host on occasion and hoping you can host as well. I need to play it by ear so please be patient as this is all new to me.

If interested, please reply with your age, a description or pic and any expectations or other relevant information you deem worthy. Include a favorite song so I can give it a listen and know you’re not a bot. I will ONLY reply to those who share a song.

Thanks for reading this far and I hope you have a great day.