I'll give the details below, but for a far more interesting read for the anonymous browsers - life right now: I recently finished a terminal degree and have been working as faculty in higher-ed. It feels like such a combo between good and bad, the state of education and the commercialization of college is depressing. Still, I always feel so alive in the classroom. We have three hour blocks, and I feel pretty damn proud of being able to lecture for that long and have students be into it. I don't like preachers, but that's the kind of fire and brimstone energy I always try to bring to the classroom. Every class is a three hour theatric and comedic set. It's also a chance to have so many great conversations with young people finding their way. No corner office beats that. It's low-paying, tears inducing hell, but I love it. It took a long time to get here but I have enjoyed the journey, strange and perilous as it has been.

Other things I love are a smattering of hobbies and art. I fucking love to cook. There are few things better than to pull off a great dish for someone you love. I think that's the same for all of my pursuits, really. I enjoy my alone time. I am introvert/extrovert ambidextrous. Friends are fun but so is brooding in my upstairs room (with music, bourbon and open windows). Still, sharing things is where the magic is. I'm into painting and writing as much as music, film, TV, and video games. I'm a fan of stories via any media. For politics and beliefs, I am hard left. Pentagrams and trans people don't scare me.

I am solo-poly, married and have been on hiatus with dating for a little while to have my focus on work and family. I am still easing back into the poly world but would like to start getting to know some people and see who is out there. I have been in some form of non-monogamous relationship for the past seven years. I have experience with a mix of dynamics and am comfortable with a range.

I am looking for people to hang out with and talk to, but also hoping to not waste anyone's time or energy or my own. People get to know each other and develop attraction or friendship or it fades. It's still the right thing to say goodbye and not just bounce. I'm looking for friends and attraction; I don't think writing out wants creates a spark or brings it to you, it just happens. Any post is just fishing for a chance. I'm all for chances.

I'm six foot tall, short/bald dark hair and beard, tattoos, glasses, and green eyes. I keep in fairly good shape. The semester cycle means I waiver between in shape and some occasional, slight dad-bod on breaks. I think details are helpful for the visual learners, but I always like who I see in the mirror. It's similar with my dress and vibe, sometimes I dress way the hell up and other times I like band t-shirts and hoodies. Being excited about talking to someone sexy is fun, and I really like being reciprocal with that. I want to be desired and desirable.

As for sex, trust is so big. I am into dirty talk and fulfilling fantasies but I need clear consent on that road. I can't feel into sex if I don't feel convinced the other person is having a good time and wants it. I am totally open discussing or exploring most things but want to know whatever exploration is mutual.

So that's me, for you I am just hoping for someone that shares that wavelength. I don't feel like writing out a physical appearance wishlist because that always feels so gross. Just respond if you feel like responding and aren't a horny catfish. Don't lie to me or make me feel worried you'll share my shit. That's the thing thats keeps us all hesitant to take a chance on anything.