Dusting off the good ol' OKC again, to dip a toe in and see how it is. It asked me to change my screen name to my real name - I used another fake name because my real first name is very unusual and it combined with a face photo of me will turn up the real me on a search. Totally not something I'm EVER going to go for in a dating site.

Anyways, one of the things I put on my profile is that even though I am in a long-term relationship with someone (we're married), we both value autonomy and privacy a lot. We do talk about our other partners, and usually meet them. However, we do not EVER make our dating profiles/texts/emails open game for each other. Those are off-limits, in order to respect the privacy of our partners (we do occasionally do that thing where we get an especially sweet or wonderful text/email/whatever and share that one thing, but that's it) as well as ourselves. So anybody else who can't abide by those rules should look elsewhere.

Does that sound harsh? On one hand, for some idiot reason, I'm worried about it turning people off. OTOH, if I was dating someone and found out that they had a partner who has the freedom to look at all their messages/texts/emails/know all our relationship details, that would be a relationship-killer for me. So it's worth it to say up front.

I do have a few more, mainly that I'm kinky and if someone is looking for a sexual relationship, that is also non-negotiable (non-sexual relationships, it doesn't matter at all). And also that I'm poly (of course).

Anybody else have any up-front relationship deal breakers that may turn people off?