So basically my husband and I have recently opened our relationship. He's currently seeing a wonderful woman who makes him happy and is just generally a good person to be around. She and I have a casual friendship and get along just fine.

The problem is that after reactivating my OkCupid profile I ended up reconnecting with an ex who I dated briefly (maybe 3 months) before I met my husband. This man is kind of known around town since he runs sound at a local bar and is just generally involved in the community. My husband has never had any extended reaction with this man, but has made up his mind that he doesn't like him. I've really enjoyed reconnecting with him and would like to persue this relationship to some extent, but I can't get my husband to come around. He's not telling me not to see this guy, but says that he doesn't want to be around him and thinks that I can do better.

I don't know how to proceed. Has anyone else ever had an issue like this? How did you handle it? My husband has also said that besides just generally not liking this guy he also doesn't like the fact that I have been with him before. Is that really an issue? I'm just having a hard time proccessing it all and am finding myself at a loss.