I’m new to Reddit not new to poly but am trying to have a healthy poly relationship. I have a partner who I had an instant connection with or so I thought. It seems to have fizzled out. I’m supposed to be primary but they favor their other partner more. My partner B constantly gives in when my metamour has a temper tantrum. B has stated metamour hates things about me that are things that cannot be changed. I feel if we’re hierarchy and also supposed to be a community where all partners interact together not sexually but casually and metamour hates me and is causing problems then how will that work? Plans broken, saying I treat them poorly when I bend over backwards and have gone out of my way so many times to help them. I have strong feelings but it feels like they don’t matter. Everything B said was just words they said in lust and now they don’t want to admit it. Should I be upset multiple times a week by their actions and that be an ok relationship because it’s newer?