When people want to be overly part of my life by insisting on dating or being friend with my support systems...( just like... trying to involve themselves in every aspect of my life.) or if they keep asking for me to meet their friends or partners after i've said no or that i need time..

I find this very offputting. I want my own life and i want my partners to have their own! Not saying being friends w/ a meta is out of the question... But i feel like some people want to be overly involved with my life and try to disguise it as KTP or relationship anarchy or something. (Not saying KTP or RA is bad) Just feels like another form of control people try to use sometimes.

Jealousy barely calls into the equation for me when meeting metas. I mostly dont know this person or how they're going to act. Idk if i wanna be friends with them til i meet them and i don't want to be thrust into meeting new people super quickly. (Socializing is hard!)

But people will try to guilt me into overly inserting themselves in my life by using these terms to imply or say i am doing polyamory wrong if I drop them bc of it 🙃