Things are great with my boyfriend. However… he is having big stressors in his marriage and it can be hard to have good compartmentalization from that. Also of note, boyfriend and I each have hierarchical relationships and prioritize our respective spouses.

Has anyone been through this? Boyfriend used to overshare about wife dramas and now he doesn’t but I know the stress is still there and it can feel weird when your partner is very stressed and not talking about it. Almost like we are now pretending the elephant in the room is not there.

Advice welcomed.

Edited to add: sometimes I’m concerned that I’m a “misery stabilizer”. And sometimes boyfriend is in a weird mood and I can worry it’s in relation to me until I ultimately discern that he’s had words with his wife that have got him feeling off. But that can be hard to communicate. And then of course I want to comfort him, but I have to stay in my lane… it feels complicated!