I know most of this probably should have been talked out with my partner before signing off on polyamory, but for reasons it wasn't, so I'm wondering if anyone else has had this happen or what.

In my poly relationship I was married and opened that marriage at my wife's request for a girlfriend. She came to live with us. Years later they fall for another nb and they moved in as well.

I feel like I'm just an unwelcome roomate now. They get on my case for things my metas have done with no issue, we haven't been intimate in at least 6 years, they have no interest in spending time with just me even though I've said it was important to me that we do and I feel constantly disrespected by my metas who feel WAY to comfortable chiming in when my wife and I are having a conflict. I described it to my therapist like this: Remember in Toy Story, the first one, after Andy gets Buzz, Woody feels like he's being replaced? Yeah, now remember when Woody was in the toybox looking for his hat and the squeaky shark came out wearing it and saying 'howdy'? That's the character I feel like in my relationship. I'm not even the old favorite. I'm not even the Woody in my polycule - I'm the squeaky rubber shark.

So, just curious, is anyone else having some sort of similar struggle or maybe dealt with one in the past? Does anyone else feel like an old toy?