I (37m) can't help feeling relationship hygiene is one major turnoff from the whole scene. Like, I talk about my people to my other people, be that partners or family members or whatever.

I don't criticize them or use people as soundboards, but these people are an important part of my life so if I can't discuss them except on a superficial level I can't have a relationship with that person. Not even as an acquaintance (and I'm very much an ASD introvert, so I don't do chitchat with strangers/acquaintances. I'm deep meaningful conversations or nothing.

Like, not being able to discuss how great your/my last date with them was and how awesome they are would be so sad.

Why is it everyone keeps insisting on relationship hygiene? Nothing sounds worse to me.

Edit: So y'all stop misunderstanding me. How humans relate is a special interest if mine! That's why I'm asking. People here in Argentina share a lot about others and usually don't mind things being shared about them! Which is why I was trying to understand why everyone on this forum is ever preaching about a non-issue.

Like, you might find one or two super private people here and there but they're the one odd outs. Here, if you want people to keep something to themselves you TELL them it's a secret and that's it. If they don't TELL you to shh, it's fair game. And people rarely do. No one seems to care.