I’ve been interested in non-monogamy for a while, then really decided to explore it when me (40f) and my husband got separated.

I’ve been talking to a few guys, went on a date or two, but really hit it off with one who lives about 45 from me. He is poly, and so is his girlfriend. He’s sort of new to the world too. During one of our first conversations, he brought up making sure for the both of us that we kept things not serious, which is really what I’m looking for anyway; after being with someone for so long, I don’t want to jump into being someone’s girlfriend right now. We decided to meet up, and we REALLY hit it off (wink wink). But also, talked so much, and really enjoyed each other’s company. We agreed we’d meet up again sometime. He left the next morning to spend the day with his girlfriend.

So, my question is this; how am I am supposed to now NOT feel shitty that he didn’t text me that whole entire day? Like I know I have absolutely no right to feel that way, but part of me felt like ok, he got what he wanted and now I won’t hear from him again. I don’t want to come in between him and his girlfriend, so I waited for him to text back..he finally did today, which I didn’t see right away anyway. I know I’m new at this. I’m not jealous of his girlfriend (I have a date with another guy on Tuesday) but it was the…not closeness after spending the night with a guy that felt really icky to me.

Any advice for a newbie on how to feel about this? Is that normal to not text because he was with his girlfriend? Am I dumb for feeling like that especially when I know what I was getting myself into? Thanks in advance!

Edited to say: He did text back today, and said he had a nice time and apologized for not being attached to his phone because he was still with his girlfriend.