So I (mtf 23) am dating this awesome man named John (M 28) who’s been partner with Mel (f 29) on an off for four years. Though they obviously care immensely for one another the dynamic is toxic / volatile. They know it and their friends have voiced such to me. All love me and voice I’m the healthier partner (brings its own pressures)

While I try to remove myself / detach myself from the issues it’s hard when one of the primary ones is her having an issue with how quickly he wanted to commit to me (has told me she wished I didn’t exist in his life)

Recently they’ve been fighting very badly (especially after I hung out with him for Four days- i was there and saw the phones call). He’s know taken the time to repair stuff with her.

He was going to meet my parents for this first time this coming weekend (sunday) He let me know “I’ll be there / make it happen” with affirmation. Today he told me this might not be the case as he needs time to repair with Mel.

While I know I was understanding, non reactive and supportive I also let him know it hurt me. I just wish he’d said “let’s see how the week goes and If not we’ll reschedule at ___ time”

Am I overreacting/ or is this a fair circumstance for him to cancel? should I push back on this, I’m a newbie!