So I’ve been in a poly relationship for about a year and a half now. We have undergone a lot of stress due to unstable living situations, which has left things consistently tense. Additionally, while we state we don’t want a hinge, it has definitely felt like this, as neither me and my other partner have truly fostered feelings in the same way we witness our feelings for the hinge partner. I do love them both, but there is so much insecurity from both of us. Sometimes I wonder if I am not built for polyamory, but how do I know for sure? My insecurities and anxieties have been especially high recently, and it makes me feel flighty. Any advice would be so so appreciated.