I (21M) have been in an open poly relationship with a 22M and 35M. 35M lives in a different city to me and 22M but we see each other regularly and have for a while enjoyed our relationship with no issues. I met 22M and was introduced to 35M soon after. We clicked and me and 35M decided to be partners ever since.

However, 22M and I have had some relationship issues recently where I felt like I wasn't being respected as much as I should be and that I was putting more into this relationship than he was. A lot of small issues but when added together made me feel disrespected. We have talked these issues through a couple of days ago and decided to make changes but we are both away with family at the moment to see each other for a week or so. 35M really helped me through this though and assured me that the issues I was having were valid to bring up and I wasn't in the wrong.

Today 35M and 22M are very happy as they have been together for six months and people around them have praised how well they suit each other and seem right together. As much as I am happy for them both, I am also quite sad that I currently don't feel the same way following our relationship issues and in a month I'll have spent the same time together in a relationship with 22M. How do I deal with these feelings? Is it even right for me to be in this relationship dynamic and be feeling this way. I still care a lot about 35M and hope if I stopped seeing 22M, I'd still see him. Any advice would be really appreciated? This is my first poly relationship so I don't always know what I should expect from it.

TLDR: Is it okay for me to feel jealous about my other partners feeling right for each other when I am currently struggling with one of mine? How do I deal with this feeling?