I just moved across the country with my boyfriend, now ex. The stress of the move plus shit that we already had issues with was enough to break us up. We're great friends, just not compatible as a couple. Neither of us can actually afford to be here on our own, so we're going to stay living together. We're best friends still and trying to stay that way, so it's not as bad as it probably sounds. We're both being mature about it, not being petty or passive aggressive. We've even been helping each other find closure and comfort through this break up.

The issue is this: not long before we broke up, he got a second girlfriend. I dealt with some jealousy but tried really hard to be happy for them. Now that we're broken up, the jealousy is way worse. He's being cute with her and making plans with her like we used to. Every time I hear them talking, it feels like he's twisting a knife in my gut.

I've asked him to trying to be cognisant of our small shared living space and to try going outside to talk to her, where I can't hear it. He's fine with going outside, the weather is nice right now. And yet, he's not doing it. Idk if it's because he's just not being aware enough or he forgot what I asked him, but it feels like he doesn't care that it's hurting me.

Getting away isn't really an option. Moving out isn't really an option. I'm trying to get space where I can but my hands are tied by finances. Him going outside to talk to her would help but ultimately the issue is that I'm jealous and hurt over what I've just lost. How do I get over this? I want to be happy for them. She makes him happy and he needs that right now. A small part of me is happy for them, but it's being overshadowed by my pain from losing him.