My partner (it/its) of a month and a half disclosed to me that their long distance partner (she/her) did not know about me. She just thought we were good friends and gym buddies. It gets along with my nest partner (she/they) too! I’m not someone who likes to be ungenuine and as they want to recede into just friends status after we became more serious, is it worth giving my meta a heads up. Being someone’s dirty secret puts a bad taste in my mouth.

I found out when its partner came to visit from England and they told me not to mention us to her. After we all hung out like once or twice and I was blissfully unaware. It was so excited for us to meet etc. Then it keeps saying It needs to tell her but doesn’t and then continues to try and talk me but doesn’t want to confront or have a conversation about what the fuck it’s actions are doing to both of us.

I probably should cut my losses but, it and I have such good chemistry and friendship. I suppose I am a queen of poor decisions but overall trying to come from a good place rooted with ethical consent from my end. Except in this case I am in an infidelity situation and I am not a fan. I want to tell its partner but also I suppose it’s not my business even if I’m now caught up in the Frey.

What is your thoughts Reddit?