I met my now partner, 3 years ago and we started talking. She informed me that she practices non-monogamy and at the time I had no idea what that meant. I researched, read books, articles, listened to podcasts, started frequenting the ENM/poly sub reddits to find out as much information as I could about the subject. We continued seeing each other over that time and have had many ups and downs during that time because I was still learning to confront my comfortability with the topic and my feelings for her… and in that time our relationship had grown. I love her so much and during the last year and a half we have been in a fully committed relationship… spending time bonding to each other, working on our communication and establishing boundaries… and during that time we have been monogamous… and she recently told me that she wants to sit down and have a conversation. A topic that she hasn’t been comfortable bringing up but she feels like she has to discuss with me.

She has a crush on someone else.. and she wants to discuss her feelings with me..

I’m nervous about the conversation… I want her to feel comfortable to discuss these feelings she’s having freely with me. My question for you all, how can I make this easy and comfortable for her. I don’t want her to feel closed off or guarded.. I know this is a big step in our relationship and I don’t want to screw it up. Is there any advice you can give me that will help make this a positive experience for both of us? I would like to reiterate that I am somewhat new to this situation… but I want to make sure that this is an opportunity for us to grow closer and build trust.

Thank you in advance for your guidance and responses