How much enjoyment and fulfillment can come from pausing to just watch your partner be a sexual being by seeing them in a manner that you can only see from a third person point of view that is impossible to appreciate when only the two are intimate. Appreciating certain movements, their body reacting to a different person, etc.. for example seeing her from a different view or line of sight in a doggie style position.

For us it is also unique in seeing us explore a bi side and seeing our sexuality expand.

For me as the male? That it's stressful AF your first time. I don't care how much swagger you think you have. My first was with my lover and her girlfriend, both hotwives. Every body thinks it's a panacea experience. While it is fun to be in the less than 5% of adults have done it club - is a ton if work. The is a distinct pressure to perform and preform well... not okay, but be really great at it. Best advice i ever got was from a friend who said, "always finish last, if you want to win at threesomes".

The other surpassing thing is just how normal everybody behaved after. Like it pretty much opened the door to either of them messing around with me. Which they did, together and solo. And the shroud thing was it wasn't filled with a while bunch of the "feels". One of the women compared it to getting a really good massage, like it was for relaxation and pleasure, not for making a family or a lifetime commitment.

Not entirely responsive, but my first group sex experience involved four people, who were ostensibly going for a full swap between couples. The other woman and I began first by ourselves, which was fun. That being said, I was basically ignored by the other woman once her partner and my wife joined in, and that was shitty. They were (rather obviously) much more interested in my wife, and my presence there seemed more tolerated than encouraged.

This is gonna sound immature AF, but I was pretty irritated after we got home that I was the only one who didn't cum the whole time. While I'm under no illusion that I'm entitled to that kind of thing just by having participated in sexual activity, the sheer lack of attention to my part of the experience after the other two joined left a very sour taste in my mouth. In retrospect, the other guy was an asshole; I remember a subsequent MFM deal between him/me/my wife -- once she got him hard, he turned around and railed her from behind until he came, and then just left the room afterwards while my wife was going down on me. We were at their place, and it felt awkward to continue with just us two in their bed, so we stopped 🤷‍♂️

Haven't done any group activities since, and that sucks in a world where a real powerful motivator for opening up the marriage on my side was having them. Between us being closed up for swinging; my wife's skepticism towards hiring sex workers; and the fact that I'd be a married guy looking for a threesome with two other women (talk about unlikely 🙄) that itch getting scratched at all in the future is h*ighly *questionable.