My (mtf, 24) boyfriend (M, 28) and I of 6 months hit a bit of a rough patch ever since he changed jobs and broke up with his other partner (F, 30).

This escalated this past weekend. We ended up having a fight while we were out (at a sex party of all places good lord). The only part of the disagreement that pertained to the sex party though was the fact that he did not use a condom with a stranger. I told him that this was his choice / okay but we’d have to use condoms till testing (disappointing though bc my birthday is next week).

The next day we both felt odd and kinda admitted we had felt a bit disconnected as of recently / like our priorities were different. He has also pushed off my attempts to reconnect (although he is still being loving / affectionate over texts) in person or to talk further about what lead to our fight.

I asked him to hangout tonight to be physically be close to one another (hug, etc.) he pushed it off by saying he had work a doable tomorrow. I respected this and figured maybe some more time to cool off.

I see though (we have our locations shared) that after work he went straight to his girl best friends house (I’m aware they have a sexual history / we’ve all been to sex parties together but they do not currently have a sexual relationship) though he did think he was in love with her at one point before we met.

I just feel weird about this. Is this something worth addressing / a red flag. On one hand I think independence / autonomy is important. He doesn’t need to tell me his every move / report to me. But on another hand pushing off an attempt to reconnect and seeing a friend instead feels shitty.