Hi everyone, This post is about my (M25, sub) relationship dynamic with my boyfriend/master(M26), its semi-open and has some kinky dynamics in the bedroom. More specifically I am looking for outside perspectives from people with more non-monogamous life experience than I and I am also looking for advice on how I can support him while making sure my needs are met. I think we handle the non-monogamy part well and we have talked openly about all of what I’m telling you. I think its mostly a kink issue, but I want your opinion nonetheless.

I also wanna preface this by saying that I know I have my issues, on which I am working with my therapist, and that the goal of this post is getting a bit of a broader kind of views.

So just over a year ago, I was seeing a master regularly with whom I had a great time but we didn’t click that well. He knew this and set me up with a master friend of his for a threesome. Lets just say that we clicked, and after a 7 month situationship filled with awesome kinky fun we decided to enter in a relationship. It’s important to note that we only see eachothers on weekends for now, with plans to change that in the future.

Our relationship is defined as semi open. The goal of this is to allow us to have threesomes (or more) to have better kinky fun. Both of us can veto any meet at any time, and get informed beforehand. Sometimes we allow for solo meets, to get to know people in view of having threesomes later.

About at that time, our lives got crazy busy, and we didn’t have time anymore for kinky fun. Well now, 5 months later, we never had any meaningful kinky session. My bf has had 2 meets, each time with a master and sub combo, but didn’t have much fun. Today he is off meeting another sub, first time in a while.

I am letting him have these so that he may get back into kinky stuff, but obviously if he does too many and I get nothing I will start to veto it.

In the bedroom, we cuddle and I give him the occasional bj or handjob, but thats about it. I really, genuinely love him, and he loves me, but I am so incredibly sexually frustrated. He knows this, and has been telling me for months that he is working on organising another session, and is getting very defensive on that subject, but nothing happens.

I know that he is chatting with a bunch of guys, masters and slaves. Some of which he chats a bit too much with for my taste, but I trust him and thats mostly me overthinking situations, I am actively working through some self confidence and overcompetitiveness issues with my therapist.

I am thinking off maybe vetoing him seeing guys alone that he talked too much with, instead offering for me to go meet them if they want a 1 on 1 before a session.

Now my question: how can I support him while making sure my sexual needs are met? I think this is more a kink question, I believe we handle the non-monogamy fairly well.