Been with my partner for over 6 years and we were instantly best friends, although the sex was lazy on her side, it was good and we both have had lots of experience it worked. Things were/are great and got a house and a little fur baby. A couple of years ago she was diagnosed with a medical condition and one of the side effects is loss of libido. We have tried all prescribed medication, date nights, and massages and I have tried my hardest not to put pressure on. Although this is not how I saw our relationship going, I have no intention of leaving. A couple of months back she said she would not blame me for having an affair or leave but this is not in my nature sneaking around. I thought for a few weeks and suggested there are things we could do that are not full intercourse (e.g. massages with HJ, talking dirty about fantasies I may have whilst I pleasure myself, or some light bdsm weekly or biweekly so I could relax, but this idea never took off as she lazy lover and I always initiated things). I even suggested hotwife or swinging in case the thought of someone else may light her flame, but not interested. I'm starting to think a lover (hate term friends with benefits or f%ck buddy) in a similar situation may be the way forward. But would not know where to look online, is it wrong that would want my partner at discussions to avoid jealousy and secrets? I just feel my head is all over the place as miss loving touch, intimacy, and feeling wanted.