I'm M she is F (relevant because I think this would be less of a concern if we were both gay men). We have friends in common. I have never seen her professionally if you get my drift.

I'm cool with it because sex work is work and I think it's similar to being a masseuse. Notice that I said similar, not the same so put down the pitchforks please.

But I need to get a feel for how much ethical obligation I'm under to notify other women that I'm dating about it. I feel like it's her secret to tell and not mine so I absolutely shouldn't divulge that to people that she doesn't know. But some women might be really angry about that if they find out about it after the fact.

Kind of feels like there's no good option here.