It’s been a while since I’ve had a date that makes me smile, laugh, and just maybe, swoon a little.

I’m in a DB, and I’m ready for something more. I’m craving a connection that’s fun, joyful, kinky, and connected—both physically and emotionally. I want to desire and be desired. i want attention and affection. I want a lover—someone I can’t wait to hear from, who makes me smile every time their name pops up on my phone.

I am looking to change my situation, or I wouldnt be here. I want a lover. A secret boyfriend. Someone who adds joy and happiness to my life. I am not looking to change my marriage or family. I’m seeking a lover—a secret boyfriend—to add joy and excitement to my already full life. My home life remains important, and my discretion is assured. My opsec is tight. I’ve navigated this before and have a flexible schedule with room for a meaningful connection.

I’m 5’8, 160 lbs. thick, fit, athletic fun. I’m attractive, educated, stylish, and well-groomed. I am committed to growth—always striving for better communication, more empathy, and mindfulness in all I do.

You’re ideally between 40 and 65, fit, HWP. confident and kind, and know how to flirt just right and how to really connect.

• Fit and HWP—because keeping up with each other should be easy. • Well-groomed and confident with a life that is (mostly) happy, but missing passionate fun sexy me. • Educated and worldly —ready to spark both physical and intellectual chemistry. • Live within an hour of the Bay Area—I'm looking for real-life connection, not a long-distance or online fling. • You’ve got the time, energy, and desire to make this something exciting.

I value thought-provoking questions and genuine interest, but above all, getting to know each other should be fun and exciting. Let’s keep it playful—there’s nothing like discovering each other’s desires and needs through clever, flirty conversation.

Let’s start with a chat to see if our vibe clicks. If you’re after a quick meet, keep scrolling. But if you’re looking to build something with real anticipation and excitement, let’s chat and see if we can create sparks. To show you’re real and that you’ve read this, please include your age, location and a brief description (height, weight, ethnicity) in your message.