All in all, your life is pretty good. You aren’t looking to blow anything up, and you certainly aren’t interested in losing the family you have built over the past decades.

But, as time goes on we grow into who we really are. And that person sometimes needs a little bit of space to spread their wings. How awesome would it have been if your spouse was on the same trajectory… but alas, here we find ourselves in this dark corner of Reddit. Most will call it a mid-life crisis, but I'm beginning to think it is mid-life clarity.

If that sounds a bit like your life, I’m pleased to meet you! We should get to know each other a little better.

I think we will get along well if you: enjoy engaging conversation, love to read great books, find a walk in the woods to be the best medicine, are past the point of caring what other people think, and are not willing to sacrifice physical connection as an essential part of being alive.

You will most likely find a good fit with me if you are into: a witty but somewhat dry sense of humor, burly but well groomed lumberjack beards, gray hair in previously mentioned beards, and a good mix tape consisting of Willie Nelson, Billie Eilish, and Broadway Musicals. (Yes, I'm confused. Don't read into it).

So what is it, exactly, that I am after. Glad you asked…

I’m not interested in running away with anyone or changing anyone’s situation. All in all, life is pretty good. I love my family and my spouse, and I hope you do too. But the grind of life is tough and I have learned a lot about who I am over the years. Sadly, my spouse is not in sync with all the things I want to experience.

I have realized that sexual passion is a primary desire I have, and early 40s is way too young to let it go. It’s not just about the sex, but we both know that’s what has us poking around these parts.

So I am looking for a little escape. A partner in crime who wants to feel the freedom of living an uninhibited life as well. A genuine friendship with chemistry that can lead us to the thing we are both missing.

This affair can look a lot of ways, but here is what I have in mind:

• Chats through the day, with a goodmorning and goodnight
• Daytime escapades, a few times a month-ish
• Sushi lunch dates, and tacos if it is a Tuesday… of course
• A hike in the hills
• Reading a book together
• And hotel rendezvous when the time is right

And now for the fine print:

• Drama free, nobody is leaving anybody
• Super safe, protecting your own family and not compromising mine trumps all else
• Message when we can, don't stress when we can't
• NE Atlanta or North Georgia, ideally up the I-85/316 corridor (but don’t let that keep us from talking)
• Meetings and escapades mostly in the daytime working hours
• Married with kids
• You don’t hate your spouse, and you aren’t desperately lonely… you just need a little something more

Yes, it will be a little fantasy we create together. An escape from the drudges of reality. We will discover together what it feels like to throw aside all the preconceived expectations of how you should act, and just go after what you know you want. We will be each other’s breath of fresh air.

But at the end of the day, we know this will only work in small doses so we put it in it’s box and head back into reality. Until the time comes to meet up again.

If you have made it this far, I guess you might as well slide on into my DMs…