I’m 44m, thinking about getting a solace or solace pro as my first toy.

I enjoy taking control of women’s orgasms while voice chatting, hearing the response is a big turn on. I would like to add a toy of my own into the mix, but I’m not sure if it will all be too much to try and handle at once? I don’t want to give my partner a distraction when she’s trying to focus on getting off, is it better to take turns? I’m not sure how the logistics work in real life and was hoping for some feedback from more experienced controllers.

I’m sure I’m probably overthinking it, I just don’t want to make a purchase and find out it’s a chore for somebody to actually work it and get me off haha.

Any feedback appreciated!