So, I (20M, bi) have been using this app for half a year now, and I met and really vibed with some cool people there. I was really blessed to have a decent couple of encounters, and I grew somewhat arrogant. Why did people say the app was toxic or that they couldn’t find what they were looking for? I was meeting up with fem guys and occasionally women, meaning I found exactly what I was looking for, unlike the people complaining.

Yeah, like I said, I was being a total jackass with my mentality, and I got a reality check eventually. My arrogance bit me in the ass. This guy messaged me, and I wasn’t into him because he simply wasn’t my type. He was masc, which is fine, but again, not my type. He kept asking for my location and tried guessing it, then sent me more photos of himself. He looked like he might have been using drugs, and his messages were really erratic. He kept saying, "In park now," whatever that meant. I blocked him.

I thought it was over. Nope, I was wrong. One day, I was working my night shift, doing DoorDash orders at a fast food chain. This guy comes up to the counter to pick up an order. He called me by name, which caught me off guard for two reasons: he used my name, and his voice was very distinct. I turn around, and it’s him. He asks me to get the order and is very aggressive throughout the process, pointing to his phone angrily several times. The DoorDash app he was supposed to use to confirm pickups wasn’t even open.

After he left, I was shaking and almost cried. Then I felt my phone ping—it’s him on a different account, which I blocked immediately. I haven’t gotten messages from him since, but I was completely shocked, scared, and disgusted. I have so many questions and still do. I get chills thinking about it, and I feel like it’s my fault, like maybe rejecting him led to this situation.

I don’t know if I interpreted this whole thing wrong, but I’m deleting the app for a while.