I could really use some insights and advice right now. I’m a 24-year-old guy facing a tough situation regarding my parents, my life, and my identity. It’s a bit of a complicated story, and I’d appreciate any thoughts you might have.

My life is split between two worlds. On one side, there’s the rural area where I live, work, go to uni, and where my parents reside. On the other side, there’s a city about 100 kilometers away. This city is where I can truly be myself, where I have my boyfriend, and where I’ve come out openly.

Here’s where things get challenging. My mother isn’t supportive of my relationship or my identity. I am literally 24 and have only come out to her a few months ago when it got way to bothersome to hide my identity. She’s taken to threatening me, saying that if I don’t comply with her wishes, she’ll out me to the rest of the family. Our relationship has been strained for a while now, and she has a history of being emotionally abusive. She constantly belittles me, accusing me of not doing anything, yet simultaneously saying I do everything wrong. I have made the grave mistake of buying a 2 apartment house together with her 3 years ago, before I had my „second life“

Today, I faced another setback as I failed my second attempt at getting my driver’s license. I know this will just add fuel to the fire and make my mother even more upset. In the same time I really hoped that i would gain some logistical independence from my mother, making it easier to go see my bf.

So, I’m at a crossroads. I’m seriously considering cutting ties with my parents for the sake of my mental well-being and the freedom to be myself. But it’s an incredibly difficult decision to make.

Have any of you faced a similar situation? How did you navigate through this kind of family struggle? Any advice on whether cutting ties is the right choice or if there might be another way to handle things?

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and for any guidance you can offer. It means a lot to me.