I find myself either too stressed or too tired to be sexually aroused when I'm putting so much effort in to organising my tasks, completing tasks, keeping up daily habits and putting the work in to reach my goals.

I find I can't switch off at any point and I'm always thinking about what I could be doing to improve my chances of success. The wife is feeling neglected in bedroom because I've always got other things on my mind and am really tired from a busy day. We always get to bed too late anyway because we've got so much to do, I only get about 5-6 hours a night

I also suffer from anxiety disorder so its extremely difficult to relax at any point and I need to be relaxed to be aroused.

I feel like the only thing that would work would be to completely give up my goals and live entirely on getting pleasure in the present. I can't balance at all.