Anyone interested to explore the deeper, healthier, spiritual form of BDSM connection? Kind, kinky, good looking, and an experienced dom looking for a wholesome, sincere boy to train into my sub slut. Long term preferred. Offering a safe space. Reviews from other subs inside. [36]

I've been doing this on reddit for more than a year now, and it is likely you've read my posts in the past. Why do I continue to post then you might ask? Have I not been able to find long term subs? The fact is, I did. Quite a lot of them. We used submission as a way for them to grow as sexual beings (while having a lot of fun along the way), and when they reached a certain place mentally/sexually where this stopped being an unhealthy obsession but something more sustainable (that is why it's called training), we evolved to being friends quite organically. I've made a difference in their lives beyond just using this kink to turn them on. I've used this very kink to make them get over their shame while making a friend they can rely on.

I am very happy with the subs I have for now but I am more than eager to help any sub who is willing to learn and discover submission wholesome. So once in a while I pop up to see if there is some magic waiting to happen.

Most guys who write to me don't need or want help. They just want to have fun and leave. And that's 90% of the messages in my chat. I avoid those at all costs now. I'm doing this to help, not to be taken advantage of. If you don't wish to go through this in a wholesome way, then please don't waste both our time. You CAN feel really sexual, slutty, raw, exposed, vulnerable, naked in all aspects while still feeling safe by trusting someone. And I work bloody hard to earn that trust. I've chats to show I made a positive difference in my subs (check them out here) and am happy to do it for you if you approach me. As long as you're sincere about it.

I have a preference. I successfully work with 20 to 35 year old guys (ranging from skinny to average ideally) who can talk casually, as well as be horny and imaginative when needed. Bonus points for otters but I love twinks too. I am not into stocky guys, bears or cubs. I am also not looking for guys who have just one or two specific kinks and they only wish to focus on those. I am done with guys using me for their 'safe' kink experience/session only to ghost the next day. And god there are hundreds of them.

Based on my experience over the last year and a half, it's best for me to train guys based in Europe, Asia and Australia.. Purely based on the time difference issues. Unless you stay in the Americas and have a messed up sleeping schedule. But to be honest, my experience with guys from the states hasn't been great.

When you reply, please write a decent enough intro. Don't just send me a hello or tell me that you'll do whatever I say or 'train me'. That's shows you don't know how to follow instructions which is a deal breaker anyway and I'll probably not reply.

Show me you've read my post by sharing the following as your intro.

List your 1. age and location, 2. orientation, 3. your experience with this kink, 4. physical description, 5. a little about your personality, hobbies and interests, 6. From the screenshots shared of my subs, what line/vibe resonates with you the most. 7. what criteria do you definitely meet from that listed above?.

As for myself, I am a 36 year old bisexual, classically tall, dark and handsome, well traveled, well read, and an overall experienced brown man. Not your run-of-the-mill alpha as you fantasize from porn, but someone who cares to make this a safe and fun journey for both you and me. I've plenty of experience training subs, with many still sticking to me over long term, now mostly as part time subs and full time friends. Even the ones who ghost write back after a while once they realize how rare, healthy, and arousing is what I offer (I don't accept them back if you're wondering).

Anyway, as a person am not boring if I can say that. Love geeking out on things. I like exploring the spiritual side of things, including spirituality within BDSM. I love travel, have covered around 40 countries and gone deep in most of them. Also crazy about food- Cooking, eating, recipes and history around cuisines. Am also into people- culture and stories. I majorly dig reading- Fantasy and sci-fi. I love imagination in all forms including from my subs (hint hint).

Starting with a casual conversation, sexting, a little kink exploration, and then eventually a mix of everything, I offer curious or experienced subs an opportunity to play and learn with someone experienced, kind and patient, to push their boundaries with. Always safe. My subs know me as someone who works to make this journey a safe yet exciting one for them.

Submission as surrender is a deeper exercise than a quick superficial session. It's about going within. Letting go of who you think you are, and allowing a trusted dom to take you on a journey of sexual discovery. It's not for anyone and everyone. I highly value vulnerability and the idea of a man opening his deepest self up to me is extremely erotic. It's not just about the physical nakedness, although lust is as important as trust in this dynamic, but also the idea of two people coming together so intimately to experience being truly naked in all aspects with each other.

I know most of the doms bring a bad name to our tribe.. and I've heard enough stories from those I've trained.. but not all of us are sitting here with our dicks out, and dealing with our own repressed selves by dishing out tasks or abuses. My focus is definitely not my orgasm. It's for the both of us to feel continuously aroused, liberated and safe at the same time.

Something I can't believe I've to remind other subs and doms- being a sub is not being inferior to the dom. Nor being any less of a man. It is to experience letting go of yourself, experience that freedom in erotic pleasure, which in my opinion is a quality that makes you more of a 'man'. It takes a lot more balls to surrender control. So whoever tells you otherwise is wrong.

From my end, I guarantee it will be an experience unlike other dom sub interactions, most of which have hyper sexualized this beautiful kink into something shallow and fleeting. This is supposed to be an intimate, delicate, and passionate exploration based on trust, and lust.

Very importantly, I would like to first see the face of whoever I am talking to (when we move to another app). I will of course gladly trade my own. I don't insist on face in nudes, I respect my subs' discretion and safety, but I need to know how my sub looks. Their eyes and smile. I've had enough of nameless, faceless bodies using me for their fantasies and then disappearing when it's time to 'feel comfortable'. No more of that.

If you meet my criteria, like my post and still have any reservations and questions please feel free to reach out nevertheless.

P. S. - a recent post of mine that elaborates on my views on the spiritual side of submission.

https://www.reddit.com/r/GayBDSMCommunity/comments/xrd1tr/an_experienced_doms_views_and_observations_on/

P. P.S.- Here's a post by my latest sub. Should give you an idea of what this might be like.

https://www.reddit.com/r/gaybdsmpersonals/comments/t1f05q/i_thought_i_was_a_sub_until_i_met_the_perfect/