Hi! I'm Kayla! I just joined Reddit (first time about a month ago!) just to post a personal. I'm a polyamorous, fat, 28, non-switching Femdom. I'm looking for a submissive partner (with an emphasis on "partner" side of things) from someone local-ish to the Ohio area in the US. I'm looking for someone who identifies as a submissive/bottom/etc.

Who Am I?

Personality-wise, I'm a sarcastic, pessimistic human who's way too logical and spends way too much time working. Conversation-wise, I really value great conversation, and as you might be able to tell, I really value proper English (or at least an attempt at such). I don't have a ton of free time, but I always make time for what's important to me.

Lately, that has been various personal projects (like buying stuff for my potential dungeon space), working out, buying too much Starbucks, investing, reading, listening to BDSM educational podcasts, trying new craft beers, attending online BDSM classes, and the occasional video games. I'm passionate about learning new things and exploring new ideas/kinks/hobbies, and you'll usually catch me torn in 20 different shiny-looking directions. I expect most of my hobbies to fall to the wayside as the hobby of "Christmas" rolls around with gift-giving, gift-wrapping, holiday treat making, and holiday decorating becoming a thing. (A holiday season with COVID around is going to be weird, but I give some awesome gifts - like sex machines!)

(I have somehow managed to get all of my Christmas gifts this year without having to step foot inside a store. This is a weird freakin' year, and I think I'm going to need to get some gifts for the UPS/FedEx/USPS driver too at this point.)

What I Love

In a partner and submissive, I really value someone who is intrinsically motivated and constantly curious and wanting to learn. If you're regularly able to say "I'm bored", we probably won't be a great fit. There's *so* much in the world to explore and learn; how can you be bored? I tend to fit best with someone who's open to more hardcore kinks and edgeplay. I'm constantly exploring and learning new kinks and new ways to play, and I love to explore that with my partner. Especially if you're new, though, I'm not against taking things slowly if you think rougher kinks *might* be for you but you aren't sure.

In particular, my favorite kinks include: vulnerability, intense emotions, behavioral modification, rope bondage, long-distance control, public play, pegging, omorashi, bathroom use control, orgasm control and denial, edging, high protocol, rituals, "training" sessions. My kinks extend well-beyond that, though, but these are the "tried and true" I regularly include or come back to.

I'd really like someone who's open to sexual contact with another penis-owning sub (because hot!) in addition to myself. You don't need to identify as bisexual, but being open to that contact and seeing where it leads is definitely ideal for me.

My Power Exchange Style

In case it isn't obvious, I'm a very reasonable Domme who isn't going to punish you for forgetting a protocol when work is stressing you out. (We're all human after all). I enjoy collaborative power exchange (where we both are working towards the goal of a sexy, happy relationship). I want our relationship and power exchange to make you a better person - and certainly one who has way better orgasms. I'm a badass at most kinks (honestly), and I own enough toys to keep you busy for years. ;)

Ideally, I'd like to have a power exchange relationship that extends beyond the bedroom - if even casually. But I'm open to bedroom-only if the connection is there.

Wishlist

Those with a thinner bodyframe tend to tick my boxes the most, but again, not a dealbreaker. Age (aside from "legal") isn't important - but keep in mind that I'm not super into video game conversations, memes, emojis (emoticons are fine!), YouTube, video game streaming or current trends.

Recently, I find that I have a ton of amazing kinky tasks, fetish ideas, and power exchange schedules but don't have a partner with enough time to actually get to breathe life into any of those ideas. Some who has regular available time is ideal for me at this point.

Hey - Reach Out!

I'm looking for more than just casual play, and we won't even reach the point of meeting up unless you put in some effort to our online conversation - especially in the COVID times where meeting up has some pretty serious risks. I'm motivated to meet up and find someone, but I'm also not desperate.

If you want to catch my attention, paying attention to my personals ad (and how much I put into it) and responding in kind is your best shot.

Lazy, terrified of me, or just want inspiration? Answer any of these questions:

• What's the last thing you really threw yourself into learning? Maybe it's the last new hobby you learned?
• What emotion do you think you feel the "strongest" out of the entire range of human emotion, and why do you think that's the case?
• As you've gotten more into kink, what's something you were surprised to find you enjoy the idea of?
• How have you been educating yourself about kink - especially if you're new?
• What steps are you taking to keep yourself (and others!) safe during COVID?
• Have you learned anything interesting/new about yourself while you've been social distancing?
• What's something awesome you think I should know or learn about?

Then We'll Chat

If we seem to have some mutual interest, we'll likely take our conversation to Discord or Fetlife messaging. I'm finding Reddit's messaging system, with its disjointed conversations and virtually no way to easily look into history of messages, is making it hard to really take conversations in-depth.