Hi! I'm Kayla!

I'm a polyamorous, curvy, 31, non-switching Femdom. I'm looking for a submissive who is local-ish to the Ohio area in the US. You do not necessarily have to be in Ohio if you have a way to manage/deal/overcome the distance. I'm looking for someone who identifies as a submissive/bottom/etc.

Quick summary:

• Looking for in-person in Ohio. Must be okay with polyamory but okay if you don't want that yourself.
• Looking for an on-going dynamic where we can grow, train, and play together.
• I don't care if you have experience or not as long as you've put forth genuine efforts to learn.
• Open to virtually all kinks as long as the dynamic is a femdom one focused on your vulnerability, trust, and submission to me. Your dedication, creativity, and compatibility are much more important to me than the exact activities we'll be doing.
• It's okay if your Reddit profile is a throwaway, but do not expect me to "carry" the conversation off a completely blank profile.
• I'll expect a conversation via Reddit, and if we seem to have potential, we can exchange pics, move to another chat platform, or meet up in public to see if that's accurate.

Who Am I?

Personality-wise, I'm a sarcastic, pessimistic human who's way too logical and spends way too much time working. Conversation-wise, I really value great conversation, and as you might be able to tell, I really value proper English (or at least an attempt at such). I don't have a ton of free time, but I always make time for what's important to me.

Lately, that has been various personal projects (like buying stuff for my someday dungeon space), working out, buying too much Starbucks, investing, reading, listening to BDSM educational podcasts, trying new craft beers, writing erotica, perfecting cocktails, attending online BDSM classes, and the occasional video game with friends. I'm weirdly into "Spring Cleaning" right now too, and I've been spending an uncomfortable amount of time cleaning things out and making trips to the local Goodwill.

I'm passionate about learning new things and exploring new ideas/kinks/hobbies, and you'll usually catch me torn in 20 different shiny-looking directions. Work takes up most of my waking hours (keeping me grounded, honestly, and in comfortable living) and the rest of my hours tend to go to kink/sex things; I try to fill in bonus hobbies around that.

What I Love

In a partner and submissive, I really value someone who is intrinsically motivated, constantly curious, and wanting to learn. If you're regularly able to say "I'm bored", we probably won't be a great fit. There's *so* much in the world to explore and learn; how can you be bored? I tend to fit best with someone who's open to more hardcore kinks and edgeplay. I'm constantly exploring and learning new kinks and new ways to play, and I love to explore that with my partner. Especially if you're new, though, I'm not against taking things slowly if you think rougher kinks *might* be for you but you aren't sure.

I'm especially into s-types who take their own education seriously. I spend 5-ish hours every week improving my abilities as a Domme; I expect any partner I play with to take their own development just as seriously. I'm open to paying for their kink education down the line if it's something I request, but there are lots of free resources online that don't consist of Reddit threads and porn videos.

In particular, my favorite kinks include: vulnerability, intense emotions, behavioral modification, rope bondage, long-distance control, public play, pee play, pegging, omorashi, bathroom use control, orgasm control and denial, edging, high protocol, rituals, "training" sessions. My kinks extend well-beyond that, though, but these are the "tried and true" I regularly include or come back to. Ideally, being open to all of these kinks is what I'm seeking, but I'm open to discussion around it all. My top-three kinks from that include public play, omorashi, and "training" regiments.

I'd really like someone who's open to sexual contact with another penis-owning sub (because hot!) in addition to myself. You don't need to identify as bisexual, but being open to that contact and seeing where it leads is definitely ideal for me.

(Right now, I've been SUPER into sexual tension/anticipation. It sounds so smokin'!)

I would expect any submissive I "own" to be at least at "great friend" level if we aren't going to go down a romantic path. I want to be able to take you as my 1 to cool events - both kink and non-kink. Bonus points if we can add some discreet, public play or "flirting" to said event, but I'd at least like to be at that level of comfort. My idea of fun "events" include virtually everything from cocktail classes, learning a new craft, workout classes together, BDSM play parties, low-key jazz concerts, and even just renting a hotel in a new city and exploring the coolest parts of a new area.

My Power Exchange Style

In case it isn't obvious, I'm a very reasonable Domme who isn't going to punish you for forgetting a protocol when work is stressing you out. (We're all human after all). I enjoy collaborative power exchange (where we both are working towards the goal of a sexy, happy relationship). I want our relationship and power exchange to make you a better person - and certainly one who has way better orgasms. I'm a badass at most kinks (honestly), and I own enough toys to keep you busy for years. ;)

Ideally, I'd like to have a power exchange relationship that extends beyond the bedroom - if even casually. But I'm open to bedroom-only if the connection is there.

Wishlist

Those with a thinner bodyframe tend to tick my boxes the most, but again, not a dealbreaker. I just like being physically capable of tossing my partner around. Age (aside from "legal") isn't important - but keep in mind that I'm not super into video game conversations, memes, emojis (emoticons are fine!), YouTube, video game streaming, or current (viral/meme) trends. I want to have something in common with you.

I miss having someone I was close to for kinky tasks, sexting, and fetish ideas via text or email. (I know people usually can't play daily, don't worry!) Someone who has regular available time to play in-person and "play" long distance via texting/instructions is ideal for me at this point.

Hey - Reach Out!

I'm looking for more than just casual play, and we won't even reach the point of meeting up unless you put in some effort to our online conversation. Expect at least two weeks of regular online communication before we'd arrange a hang-out. (Even with this requirement, only two people, out of 10, have shown up to our scheduled first date in the past year.)

I like a back-and-forth conversation that feels natural. If all you have to say is "Ask me anything you want, I'm an open book", it's probably not going to go anywhere. I've given you paragraphs upon paragraphs to mold conversation topics; please use them. I'm motivated to meet up and find someone, but I'm also not desperate. You'll be expected to converse with me, regularly, as a submissive; if we can't make that conversation work now, it likely isn't going to work any better 4 months from now.

If you're just in the mood for some online chat, please let me know that when you contact me. With my brain's loneliness lately, I'm totally down, but I'd like to know where to best spend my energy. That's all. :)

Then We'll Chat

I prefer Reddit's "Live Chat" function over the PM/messaging system.

If we seem to have some mutual interest, we'll likely take our conversation to Discord or Fetlife messaging.