Seeking a local, monogamous long-term relationship with someone DDF/non-smoker of any substances who is submissive or switch-leaning-submissive if the chemistry is there.

Someone who is thoughtful, patient, and respects the 3 C's as much as I do even if they've never done a scene. New to soft domination before but have always wanted to try it with someone who is also learning, as it feels reassuring to navigate through this new side of myself at similar levels.

Ideally this person is also new to physical intimacy and exploring BDSM as I'd enjoy mostly vanilla play with a soft femdom flavor.

In the vanilla space, my hobbies range from books to climbing and enjoying the scenery. I am someone who wants to lift my partner up and receive that affection in equal return. I want my partner to let me know how they enjoy physical affection and I do my best to fulfill that. I have no desire to cause pain for pain's sake, and only at a level that is both comfortable to me and my partner. The domination I'd be looking at would be more inherent to the dynamic of seduction, begging and orgasm control. I enjoy dressing myself up in outfits and soft power dynamic roleplay. I'm also curious about exploring pegging. My partner can engage in as many or as few of my interests as he likes as long as we're on the same page about how we want to explore this side of ourselves.

I'd like to also have aftercare where we cuddle and I run my fingers through his hair and share how we feel after each session. We are both clear on what we want to try or what we enjoy and can be comfortable expressing our limits in a judgement-free zone.

About me: I'm East Asian and physically average. My preferences lean towards someone of a similar ethnicity, Caucasian, or Latino who loves to give oral. Most importantly, someone who values communication similarly and who I can communicate with comfortably.

Please be between the ages of 30-45 and be average to fit, and have a comment/post history. I prefer older who give off a 'Dad' vibe, but most important is having compatible communication and energy. No throwaway accounts.

Only responding to serious inquiries that contain all of:

1) some basic general details about yourself including your age; and

2) what you're seeking as a submissive and your thoughtful reflection on what I've shared that matches the energy of my post.

I would like it eventually if you were willing to exchange a SFW face and half-body photo as a prelude to discussing meeting up. The picture is to gauge baseline visual attraction but as a someone with a love for the written word, thoughtful communication is what draws me in.