My grandparents, parents, and the majority of my aunts and uncles are JW's. Have been since the early 80's at least. About 3 or 4 months ago I scheduled my meeting with the elders after some repeated calls to finally get them off my back. I wasn't worried about the actual DF/DA status because my nuclear family is out, and the other majority of my family was already preemptively shunning me for living in sin.

Previous to my actual DA, tension had already built and burst with my very in grandparents. They sent me an email earlier this year (which I will post in the comments) that was an attempt at a manipulation/guilt trip/goodbye letter. My response (which I would post but it was a voice mail) was angry but not hateful, I just said that if they felt that way it was I that wanted nothing to do with them. This resulted in my grandfather coming to meet me, then flipping out and yelling at me 5 minutes in when he asked about my issues and I mentioned Australia.

I haven't spoken to them in 3 or 4 months, similar situations exist with my uncle and cousins on another side of the family. All of this I was prepared for, but my parents and siblings blaming ME for it all is not something I was prepared for. My parents and siblings are CONVINCED that I was just out to offend and be contrarian.

Has anyone else experienced this? Advice on going forward?

TLDR; I'm DA'd, family is faded, parents and siblings blame me for shunning from grandparents/family.