I'm looking for a conversation, nothing more. I wrote this prompt as a conversation starter and want you to react to it, not just a hello and how do you do. I prefer to talk in Dutch and I only talk in the reddit chat so send me a chat request if you'd like to talk with me about this or something else.

I know this is deeply personal and a very unpopular opinion. Many women and even more men would disagree with me but I view it as unmanly when a man pleasures his woman (e.g. me). I think sex in it's natural, raw form is focussed on penetration and his ejaculation and everything else should be secondary tot that, it's unnecessary fluff.

When having sex I don't want him to hold himself in ot getting himself distracted. I want him to focus on his own orgasm since that is what satisfies me when having sex. It doesn't help that I don't like it when sex takes forever and I see long foreplay as an unnecessary postponement. There are many men that wouldn't be able to handle that. They get insecure when they can't make a woman orgasm, even if she doesn't want it herself. Their ego's can't handle that but I think more than that it comes from feeling insecure.

Sex has been a male-focused thing in most of human history. Just penetration untill he ejaculates shortly after. That is what sex should be. Feeling his lust and power over me is what I like. It's nothing misogynistic; it gives women power. Men are much more dependant on women than the other way around. That is one thing I like about sex.

But to be honest one of the reasons I have these feelings is because I can't get to orgasm easily anyway. I can do it if I concentrate on it with a powerful vibrator but only then would I want to focus on that. I don't want that during sex. It's something for me on my own.

Anyway, if you'd like to talk about this, preferably in Dutch, send me a chat request. Tell me what made you interested in talking or react to one of my opinions, that makes it a lot easier to start a conversation.