Okay so for awhile now I've identified to others as Demisexual. When I first heard a description of it so many lights and bells dinged in my head, it seemed obvious! But as I read through this sub or other places about Demisexuality, I often find my experiences don't usually match up with those posting. I suppose this is my Hello there! post.

First off, I LOVE sex and sexual experiences. When I find people I'm connected with - because that's how I describe it, not just as a relationship or love, just a real connection - then I want to have a good bit of sex, especially in that NRE phase, then slightly less like most others.

Second, I love talking about it, sharing tales with others, learning about it, etc. It never makes me uncomfortable to have brought up even when I'm the butt of a joke.

Third, as a cis-male, being Demi has led to some awkward encounters. Nothing seems stranger for a healthy, young man than a beautiful woman who is very ready, willing, and able to engage in sex but then realizing I was just being flirty/ wanting to have sex and not actually checking in with my own emotions about her to see if I actually COULD have sex... if you catch my drift.

Lastly, I find I can connect with a lot of people, but with some people it's happened the first night we met and with some it's taken months. If I don't have a strong enough connection with somebody but I do feel something for them, I can sometimes still have sex (through a combination of meditation, pharmaceuticals, and stimulus) but it's going to be bad. But then with those I do have one with, it'll be immeasurably better.

Well, I'll end my rambling here. I hope I'm just not in the wrong sub haha I imagine being Demi is like so many other labels created these days to better describe ourselves: you're supposed to pick one that fits best but keep in mind that no label fits anyone 100%. So thank you for reading my take on being Demi!