I only really look at men's profiles because I'm a straight woman. In all the apps, and in chatting with men spontaneously (in the wild) who are interested in me, they all do what I would call "leaving all options open". I think women are very specific about what they're looking for, whether it's LTR, or FWB or casual sex. But men... they check all those boxes in a very opportunistic way - they'll take casual while they wait for the right FWB or LTR to come along. I don't fault that approach but here is what I do fault: they're never straight up honest about that, they're cagey if asked so I am having to learn to read between the lines.

Okay so I know you can't guarantee that we'll become best buddies in a FWB situation. But nobody in this earth is asking for guarantees. Just be real with me. If you're only interested in a one night stand say so. Yes, I'll politely decline to date you, but that's okay, it just means you and I aren't meant to be. Don't pretend to be into me when you're not interested in anything other than getting off right now.

I am slowly learning to read the cagey way men describe what they're looking for, but I'm rapidly getting tired of swimming through tons of men who aren't a valid connection for me but pretend to be.