When I’m attracted to someone, I immediately start imagining what it’s like to have sex with them & get so horny. I have a very high sex drive & also get way too emotionally attached after having sex. I feel like my poor impulse control has always gotten me in trouble in the past. I used to always have sex with ppl I was mutually attracted to immediately without getting to know them.. so I found myself falling for the ppl who weren’t good for me plus I couldn’t think straight.

The horny thoughts are so distracting. I don’t know how to connect with or befriend a guy I’m attracted to. I realize that it’s getting in the way of forming a genuine connection with someone… I’ve since then stopped hooking up bc casual sex is bad for me. But I’m horny constantly (yes I use a vibrator).

For example, there’s this guy I’m crushing on and whenever I see him I get so horny. I think about what I’d want him to do to me & become so nervous talking to him. It’s like I’m partially really embarrassed for all the sexual thoughts towards someone I don’t even know! & then I feel all up in my head the whole time. Plus I have the tendency to become too infatuated with someone idk bc I like how they look. (I’m not capable of becoming attracted to ppl I’m not immediately attracted to— ppl told me to try & I’ve tried mult times.)

Is this something that ppl commonly struggle with? I feel like I have an annoyingly high sex drive which sucks as a single person who cant even enjoy it.

TLDR; very high sex drive but I become too emotionally attached to have casual hookups without getting hurt. But idk how to befriend or connect with men I’m attracted to non sexually. How can I overcome this?