I’m in my 30s & have never once had a genuine romantic connection. I never took my time to get to know someone. As soon as I’d meet someone I found attractive, I’d have sex with them as soon as possible. It feels like I have no self control sometimes. If the guy initiated sex then I felt like I couldn’t resist. I’ve only connected with guys either on the dating apps or while intoxicated at a party. & I’m done doing that bc I want to find something real. But idk how to just get to know someone I’m attracted to. I become anxious & lose my head when talking to someone I’m attracted to. So in the past there wouldn’t be much talking if you know what I mean.

I have a very high sex drive & it’s so distracting. It’s like as soon as I see the guy I’m attracted to, I fantasize about having sex with him & physically I desire to have sex as soon as possible. I can’t just think & act normally. & I realize that casual sex isn’t good for me.

Edit: haven’t had casual sex in 1 yr & took a break from dating. I want to put myself back out there but idk how to go about it the right way.