So I have been seeing this guy for about a month and a half now. We've gone on 7 dates and I think things are starting to take a turn for the worse. He was great for the first 2 weeks we were talking and then the last minute plan changes/cancellations started. Then one time he cancelled a date plan on the day of and I noticed he blocked me from seeing his Instagram stories that day which lasted for about a week until he unblocked me when we went on our date. That whole thing made me mad and confused and I wanted to confront him about it but I was advised by friends to not do it so I let it go. After that whole debacle, about a month in he messaged me one night saying he thinks he's not ready for a romantic relationship. After some back and forth I said I understand but then he came back the very next day saying he wants to give us a real good chance and doesn't want to let his overthinking get in the way of something good. I decided to give us a chance too but now I'm starting to feel like it was a mistake because his words simply do not match his actions. He has gone right back into changing/cancelling plans last minute but now he's also always so down.

Last Sunday we had brunch plans which we cancelled because he apparently forgot he had a muscle therapy appointment. I suggested we meet after his appointment instead and go to a museum. He said he might be too tired for that after therapy so I suggested we could also just stay in, order some food and watch a movie. Then he apologized for being a "party pooper", his words and he wants us to go. He said that some days he just wakes up and doesn't feel great and feels grumpy and to not take it personally. I told him that he is allowed to feel how he feels and that I understand. We all have those days. He said he struggles to be happy sometimes even though he has so much to be grateful for.

Any who, we went to the museum and he was feeling down the entire time but we had somewhat of a great time nonetheless. We went back to his place, had some pastries and we made plans to meet during this week and early next week. Come Tuesday, he said he had a shit day at work and he felt very frustrated. I tried to just listen and comfort him then I asked him if he is down to have a movie night on Wednesday and he asked if he can confirm wednesday morning. He said he will see me wednesday night but maybe we can do something else because he doesn't know how work will be. I said sure. Wednesday morning came and passed and I didn't hear from him so I decided to message him. He replied saying he took some time off social media and his phone and he's not sure he will be able to meet after all and said we can stick to our plan to meet on Monday. I said sure and asked him if everything is okay and if work is really that bad or if there is something else making him sad. He said that work is actually not that bad and he is dealing with insane anxiety and he can't seem to focus on anything. Then I asked if he knows where this anxiety is coming from and he said its just a cycle of overthinking and lack of attentiveness and stress.

I can't help but feel like either he is too scared to just tell me he's not that into me and break things off so he is making up all these excuses of not feeling well all the time or if he is just genuinely going through something and he is not telling me everything. I have been nothing but supportive and understanding but I did not sign up to become someone's therapist. I don't think I can keep putting up with him cancelling plans all the time and feeling down. It is emotionally draining. But then I think of the times we are together and feels like nothing is wrong and the conversation is flowing. I don't know what to do.