Two weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me via text. Since then she has not indicated any availability for me to come over and pick up the stuff I had at her place (it isn't much: a couple board games, my sewing kit, and some toiletries). This week she proposed a plan to take the stuff to her work, leave it at reception and I can pick it up there. But she hasn't messaged to indicate that she has actually done so.

Two questions:

1 - She seems to want to have minimal contact or communication with me and I am trying to respect that, but I want my stuff back. How do I balance respecting her seeming desire to cut contact, and my desire to get my stuff back? How often is appropriate for me to message trying to resolve this?

2 - At what point does it become acceptable to start trying alternate methods, and what is the most acceptable method to try? My current ideas (in order of preference): contact one of her friends and ask if they can do anything to help, talk to her landlord, or park myself in front of her place one morning before work (she lives basically on my way to work so it isn't really an inconvenience for me). The last one is the "nuclear option" if all else fails.