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A: I have been cheated on and can forgive cheating.
B: I haven't been cheated on and can forgive cheating.
C: I have been cheated on and can't forgive cheating.
D: I haven't been cheated on and can't forgive cheating.
I'm curious to see people's answers. I was having a discussion with a friend who forgave a partner for cheating.
EDIT: When the question asks if you forgive them, the implication is that you continue the relationship. Not break up and forgive them.
EDIT #2: Dayum a lot of us have been cheated on 😥
You have so much more trust & forgiveness than I could ever muster. I'm sorry you got cheated on.
This is just a personal statement regarding my own feelings and is in no way meant to disregard yours or denigrate your choices.
I personally feel like if a relationship is worth having (saving), the person wouldn't cheat. And if they cheat, they've broken what was worth having in the first place. I would feel that they do not value it as much as me.
This sounds more sexual than it is 😂
I honestly feel like emotional cheating is almost worse than physical cheating. I feel like emotional cheating takes time and effort versus physical cheating which could just end up being oops I got drunk and urges took over. I don't condone either though.
I feel that. I seem to attract people who want to use me for things. Ironically I said the same thing. I was going to stay single for a nice long time and then boom the girl of my dreams (or so I thought).
I am genuinely shocked by the amount of people that have been cheated on, sometimes multiple times. It makes me lose hope a little bit because I couldn't ever forgive it.
Forgiving someone but not staying with them is one thing compared to forgiving them and staying with them though. I can forgive and move on but can't forgive and stay.
You're made of Legos and the idea of a relationship and/or the concept of cheating to you is foreign?
Everyone processes these things differently and I won't judge you for your choices because they're just as valid as mine. My personal feelings are that any "reason" for cheating is just an excuse, and people often make excuses for their partners because they're too comfortable to leave.
It's curious the split between responses. Some people view emotional, cheating worse and some people view physical cheating worse.
So if you're okay with a partner being non-monogamous it sounds like you might possibly fall into polyamory.
The implication is you forgive them and stay in the relationship.
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