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Seriously. I have always told partners that if we can't work through things and you want to screw someone else, just go. I don't want either of us to waste our time. And I don't want to hurt someone by cheating because I know how much that would hurt me. But it seems like there's a fairly large portion of people who get off on cheating because they're doing someone they're not supposed to do. I just can't comprehend the excitement from that being enough to overwhelm the immense guilt that I would feel.
Of course it's relevant to me. It's relevant to everyone considering that anyone could be cheated at any point for any of multiple reasons. But most of all it's important to me because I've been cheated on before.
I just wish there was an easier way to root out people like that, but cheaters are usually going to lie about their past or will potentially end up doing it again unfortunately.
I'd rather be single than be hurt honestly.
I personally could never regain the lost trust if a partner cheated on me. I can accept any range of flaws, struggles, mental and physical health issues, blemished past, etc but trust is the most important thing for me. I have had plenty of opportunities and have never taken them. No matter how easy, no matter how hideable and no matter how inebriated. I get that people make mistakes, but there are also consequences for those mistakes.
Well, I agree that the pendulum of power has swung towards the female side of the dating pool, you're coming off a little bit incel bud. Calm down.
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I think that is an inaccurate generalization. I think there are a lot of selfish people out there of any gender. But I don't think it's limited to gender or generation.