I (29F) am currently dating my bf (28M) for about 4 months now, a relatively new relationship. Things are going ok except for somethings he says that kind of leave me a bit speechless cause he has a lot of “preferences”. I try to work out as much as I can (trying to get that booty gains) but my work is very exhausting. I am still trying my best nonetheless, but my bf would say things like “I like it when your butt was firmer, that’s just my preference” knowing that I don’t have a whole lot of time to go to the gym consistently, but it does kind of downplay my efforts and it makes me feel a little insecure. I told him in a joking cute way “you should like my butt regardless of it’s firm and when it’s a little jiggly cause it’s my booty”. But he said it’s his preference and he’s allowed to have preferences. But idk how to respond to him when he said it’s his preference except for “ok”.

I have tattoos and when I travel I like to collect little tattoos from places I’ve visited, we are about to go on our first trip together and I said I am thinking of maybe getting a tattoo. He said no don’t do it because the amount I have right now is enough. When he said that, it was giving me controlling vibes so I asked him to clarify. He said it is his preference that I don’t get anymore but he won’t stop me from doing what I want. So I just said ok, cause again idk how to respond to that.

Another situation was when I needed to change my shower head in my bathroom. I’m pretty independent and I’m used to doing things myself, I bought a new shower head from Amazon and was about to install it myself until he said “no, let me do it, don’t be too much of a handywoman”. That threw me off a little and I said why not? I’m used to being the handywoman because I live alone. But he insists on doing it for me so I had to wait a couple of days for him to visit me to change it out.

Am I thinking too much into this and maybe this is actually normal? I am feeling really confused. Please let me know what you guys think.