TLDR version: For those of you that had to "let someone down" by telling them you got fixed and were DEFINITELY not having children, how did you do it? I know its my life and relationship, but, as we all know, there is some judgement that comes with such a large decision.

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Short back story. I've been together with my now wife for 10.5 years (married for 2.5) and very early on we decided we didn't want kids. We shared this with our families whenever they'd ask when we were having kids. I'm sure you've all heard it before but we were hit with the "you'll change your mind... you have no idea what you're saying... you're just young..." etc. I love kids, dont get me wrong, but I just dont want my own. I get more enjoyment being the "uncle" my friends and families kids can come to because I'm basically a big man child at 31.

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Fast forward to present day. About a week ago I got a vasectomy and solidified our stance. Ironically our mothers took the news very well. My mom was pretty bummed because she really wants grand kids but understands and respects our decision. She also joked and said she has 2 more shots with my younger siblings. Her mom, probably jokingly, congratulated us and was excited. She loves to travel anywhere and everywhere she can so her comment came from a place of relief from not missing out on a grandkids life.

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Where I struggle is telling our fathers. My dad has 5 kids total and is VERY family oriented. Her dad is in a similar boat where he remarried into a family with 4 kids while having 2 of his own. Which brings along the question. For those of you that had to "let someone down" by telling them you got fixed and were DEFINITELY not having children, how did you do it? I know its my life and relationship, but, as we all know, there is some judgement that comes with such a large decision.

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Thanks for hearing my out, and also this is my first post. I cant lie, I'm looking forward to the child free life.