[Updated v.3]

I’m Daddy [Dom]. NYC native, 5’9”, 220lbs, naturally strong though only recently getting back into working out. I’m endowed (upstairs and downstairs) and identify as a protector, feminist, mentor, guide, anchor, and confidant. As a disciplinarian I am more into positive reinforcement than punishment.

My desire to take care of others stems from my upbringing where I had interactions with two people with Borderline Personality Disorder. My birth mother (also an addict) having Self-Destructive / Impulsive while the woman who raised me, my great grandmother, had more of a Quiet/Discourage type.

Growing up, I strived be the opposite of my birth mother which motivated me to look deep and hard at my flaws and work to be a better version of me. I always appreciated how my great grandmother provided for me, though I realize now I had to grow up quickly and be the caretaker for her as the “man” of the house while she took care of others as a nurse. She gave me space to grow and be brilliant

This magical mixture of my intellect, self-awareness and those formative experiences have led to my desire to take care of others (while conversely not wishing to control anyone). This disposition allows me to work well with women who are dominate/strong/independent, and don’t seem submissive, in their day-to-day life yet care to "switch off" in the bedroom. I feel I’m also wonderful for those who are just submissive in life.

I'm Good, Giving, Game (GGG) as my intellect is also expressed in the bedroom, try to give as much as I can, and I’m up for anything that’s not within my hard limits.  For example, I am not a fan of pain (giving or receiving), but if it's what my partner wants, I'll work myself up to be a primal lover.

As for myself, apart from the overall ddlg which hasn’t included age play, I enjoy messy blowjobs, deepthroat and anal training, light degradation, anilingus (giving and taking), and more recently have slowly gotten into watersports (something my last few partners introduced me to). I also enjoy light breath and impact play. I enjoy being appreciated and respected and so desire to have someone who’ll listen and trust my guidance, as I listen to them, as I do not care to control someone’s actions/existence and realize while I’m a genius, that doesn’t mean I know everything or am always correct (just about 89% of the time when acting alone). So yeah, as a Dom I am much more Daddy than a Master or Sir.

I’m open to lovers who are younger and understand that relationships don’t have to last forever, but still want to have strong formative relationships with a decent human while being open to those closer to my age who are looking for things to be much longer term with a little more shared responsibility in life.

I don’t have any particular type as I’ve dated women of different ethnicities/nationalities (Chinese, Taiwanese, Indian, Jewish, Greek, Iranian, Filipino, Thai, British) from many different family types (liberal, conservative, religious, atheist) and wildly different walks of life (creatives, scientists, teachers, nerds, geeks, CEOs, nurses, social workers, rich, poor, or entitled backgrounds).

However, if there were an ultimate type I appreciate others who have overcome difficult beginnings / childhood trauma, or who work to overcome emotional/mental struggles and still manage to remain resilient (if not negative) or positive, or those who live atypical lives. I also wildly respect those who work in the realms of art or social services. When it comes to body types I love thick to bigger women (or at least who have a larger rump as I’m an assman.) Still, I don’t want to paint too restrictive a picture as the “who” a person is matters more to me than “how” they look.

Let’s see, I recently learned about attachment types and realize I’ve gone from an insecure anxious/preoccupied to a more, secure/anxious type, and have decent boundaries. If you know that you have an insecure attachment type that’s okay, just let me know. I’m understanding and open, and can relate.

"Wherever you go, there you are,” after all. This is my motto to life.

[Post Script]

Someone asked, what makes me express so much about myself and the answer is multiple parts. Ultimately, I choose to live with honesty, intention and authenticity while I want the fun, sexual stuff as well I also truly want genuine interaction and regard. I want to go on dates, to watch shows together, to talk and listen to your story and your day. I’m a Daddy and get how difficult it can be to vet the people who say they are (but are truly sadists, masters, or sirs looking for (imo) certain types of women. That being said, I’m not perfect, but I hope I show that I work really diligently to be my best. I take being a model of behaviour very seriously.

A lil (hee) gift : VNV Nation - Illusion (Doll Face) - https://youtu.be/evpGu3eO0pY?feature=shared

== Results from bdsmtest.org == (March of 2024)

• 90% Daddy/Mommy

• 89% Dominant

• 85% Non-monogamist

• 70% Degrader

• 68% Experimentalist

• 68% Age player

• 64% Vanilla

• 63% Owner

• 63% Master/Mistress

The below are possibilities, but I would say most are yet to be determined.

• 54% Voyeur

• 52% Rigger

• 50% Rope bunny

• 48% Brat tamer (meh)

• 44% Switch ß- for the right person, definitely.

• 43% Exhibitionist

• 42% Pet

• 29% Primal (Hunter)

• 22% Sadist

• 14% Submissive

The below doesn’t really rate for me:

• 9% Brat

• 1% Slave

• 0% Boy/Girl <--- With the right person this could go up.

• 0% Primal (Prey)

• 0% Masochist

• 0% Degradee